8 Small Habits Of Incredibly Calm People, According To Psychology
These calming habits actually work when practiced.
veranikasmirnayaphotos | CanvaOne of the big lessons I learned after years and years of anxiety and personal insecurities was the power of habits. Habits aren’t just for physical health and business growth. Mental strength and the resulting experience of more calm result from healthy psychological ‘super habits.’
Maintaining calm is one of the most powerful life skills. It helps us connect with people, keeps us creative and resourceful, and lifts our performance. I’ve analyzed the habits of calm people I’ve known for years.
Here are small habits of incredibly calm people:
1. They move their body daily
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Meditative movement has been shown to alleviate depressive symptoms. In this type of movement, you pay close attention to your bodily sensations, position in space, and gut feelings as you move. Qigong, tai chi, and some forms of yoga are all helpful. For example, frequent yoga practice can reduce the severity of symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder to the point that some people no longer meet the criteria for this diagnosis. Changing your posture, breathing, and rhythm can all change your brain, reducing stress, depression, and anxiety and leading to well-being.
2. They find ways to enjoy 'hard' things in life
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They know that perspective is malleable, so they change their view accordingly. The ability to adapt to a rapidly changing environment facilitates positive outcomes.
3. They prioritize themselves first
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Stressed people put others before themselves and then wonder why they struggle. Self-care is your priority. You have one life — don’t spend it breaking yourself to please others.
4. They create things
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Calm people create more than they react. They are builders and nurturers, passionate about bringing beautiful things into existence, whether paintings, raising children, relationships, or new projects. Creativity is essential. From CEOs to painters, everyone needs creativity. It allows you to come up with new ideas, rules, or ways of doing things. It helps you break from the usual and enables you to solve problems. Creativity increases your productivity and happiness.
5. They don't forget to breathe
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You might be surprised — certainly if you’re frequently stressed or angry — how much time you spend holding your breath and tightening your belly. Calm is granted to those who let go physically, breathe fluidly, and loosen their bellies.
6. They don't rush
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Rushing might seem to give you an advantage, but it’s the opposite. Calm people adapt to the speed of life and find things easier. They take it all in their stride. They own time in their calm motion. Moving calmly and more slowly can be intentional. It can be viewed as a habit that is nurtured. When you move more slowly, life slows down, too, and everything becomes easier.
7. They don’t take anything personally
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Stressed people make everything about them. They are self-conscious. Calm people drop the focus on themselves, choosing to focus on others and their projects instead. You may not always have control over many things in your life, including what people say to you, but you do have 100 percent control over how you react to each situation. The goal of not taking things personally is to avoid unnecessary stress and conflict. Try asking a few questions to deflect unnecessary conflict.
8. They minimize the amount of negative people in life
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Calm people are ruthless with the boundaries they exert on others and keep negative and drama-prone people out of their lives. When we remember that keeping the company of negative interior friends is a choice instead of an obligation, we are free to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.
Building on this idea, toxic and manipulative people can be identified by the four prevailing negative and dark states that inhabit them. By learning to recognize and understand the interior workings of toxic friends and their toxic friendships, we gain important insight into what is dark and limiting inside of us.
Alex Mathers is a writer and coach who helps you build a money-making personal brand with your knowledge and skills while staying mentally resilient.
